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Wedding spats
What Your Wedding Fight Might Say About Your Marriage
Lindsay Madden Photography
The silly spats you and your fiance get into while planning your wedding can be red flags for hot-button issues down the road.
If You Fight Over: Your Cake
Your hot button may be: Your home decor
Anda Photography
Your hot button may be: Your home decor
Lemon and raspberry curd versus white-chocolate mousse, cupcakes versus classic tiers—wait, can frosting flavors really impact how you decorate your house? Well, in a word, yes! Your wedding cake symbolizes your style as a couple, and the fact that you each want to assert your own taste (literally) is a sign that you may struggle with creative control over furniture, rugs, paint colors and more. Suddenly, his insistence on that crazy groom’s cake and his quest to turn the guest room into a man cave make total sense! To prevent a style standoff, realize that while your tastes may not sync up, you both get to express them. Pick a “free pass” room where you each can put your personal stamp (even if that means antlers over your flat-screen). The rest of your pad calls for more give-and-take, but allowing each other a room of your own makes sharing the decorating reins a whole lot more bearable.
If You Fight Over: The Size of Your Wedding
Your hot button may be: Where you live
One of you dreams of a glamorous country-club extravaganza, while the other is fine with a 20-person, barefoot ceremony on the beach. Sounds like someone prefers to stay under the radar, while the other wants to make a statement. No matter who wins in the end, the friction you feel over how grand or low-key your wedding day will be is a tip-off that future battles may be fought over neighborhoods during your house hunt. Here’s what could happen: The statement-maker wants a hip address where you can be in the thick of the action, while the chill spouse would be perfectly happy on a no-name street in the burbs. Whoever wants the over-the-top wedding needs to ask: “Am I trying to keep up with my friends? Or am I truly attracted to a faster-paced lifestyle?” You’re not wrong to want to be in a prime spot, but listen to your spouse’s side too. Living just outside the trendy zone may be the perfect compromise.
If You Fight Over: Your Seating Chart
Your hot button may be: friends vs. family
Who commandeers the guest list for their genetic nearest and dearest? Is his fourth cousin twice removed an “A-team” invite? Bickering over the friends-versus-family final tally (him: 150 family members, you: 23) hints at future power struggles over how you will prioritize the key people in your life. Moving forward, will your spouse expect you to attend family dinners 24/7, while you’d rather spend more time getting to know the couples in your new neighborhood? Don’t make the mistake of guilt-tripping your partner into doing things your way; you will regret that decision sooner than you think. Rather, the trick to keeping the peace is creating a balance so neither of you ends up feeling resentful.
If You Fight Over: Your First Dance
Your hot button may be: How romantic you are
It all just seems so perfect, choosing your wedding song together…until you realize that you have opposing ideas of what tune encapsulates your relationship. (“Excuse me, The Black Keys? Who actually wants to hear The Black Keys at their wedding?”) While you may be able to pull off the wedding music list without losing your cool, prepare to have this issue resurface when it comes to how you define romance as a couple. Will one of you hate gazing at each other in front of a huge crowd at your wedding while the other will eat it up like some sort of fairy tale? Watch out for the same kind of friction in newlywed life—how you view Valentine’s Day, anniversary gifts, PDA. You can’t change your partner; only accept that you both have different ways of expressing yourselves and appreciate when the other person makes an effort.
If You Fight Over: Your Honeymoon
Your hot button may be: Your downtime choices
Your first postwedding vacation is supposed to be carefree, relaxing and fun—this isn’t like registering; trust us, we know that one can be super-stressful—so why is it so hard to settle on a destination and activity schedule? You two can’t seem to get on the same page on how or where to spend those couple of weeks. If planning something as pleasant as a honeymoon can turn into a nuptial nightmare, think about your potential fights? We can imagine many disagreements over how you’ll spend your free time together. The person who is all about having a spa week or chill Caribbean trip may crave that same mellow vibe when it comes to filling your weekend calendar, but the energetic sightseer may feel stifled by their partner’s slow pace.
The key to not clashing? Stop trying to turn your future spouse into your twin and embrace the fact that you two are different people with different interests. You won’t know how fun it could be to have opposite kinds of stimulation during downtime if you don’t at least give it a try. Loosen up every once in a while and tag along for one of your partner’s favorite hobbies. Who knows, you might.
Written by: Riann Smith; Originally published in The Knot Florida Fall/Winter 2013 Issue
Monday, September 23, 2013
From the knot
I saw this on the knot and thought it was note worthy:
9 Wedding Bummers You’re Not Allowed To Freak Out About
You want to exchange vows on top of a mountain in the middle of Montana or hand-make everything including the soy candles? Do it. Those are the details and ideas that make your wedding day special and memorable for years to come. But all those personal untraditional choices sometimes come with their own setbacks. Here a few of the most common untraditional planning choices couples make and the bummers that go with them.
1. You’re having a destination wedding and a good number of family and friends can’t make it.
Between flights, hotels, babysitters, gifts and time off work, going to a destination wedding adds up quickly. Instead of feeling rejected, focus on the guests who are flying out for your wedding. After the wedding, make a plan a time to catch up with those guests who couldn’t make it to share photos from the wedding day. Think of it as another reason to celebrate!
2. You didn’t register for many gifts because you prefer cash, but you ended up with a bunch of unexpected gifts.
If you’re only including a small registry in the hopes that guests will take the hint and gift cash instead, you shouldn’t be surprised if you receive unexpected presents. Some people might not get the hint and others don’t feel comfortable giving cash so they’ll try to pick out something they think that you’ll really love. Accept the gift gracefully, send a thank-you note and quietly return the gift if they included a receipt to buy something you want instead.
3. You want to DIY your whole wedding but no one has offered to help.
You imagine your wedding to be filled with handmade details (great!), but the reality is that crafting each part of your wedding takes a lot of work. Not everyone will have time to spend hours on end making amazing DIY projects for the wedding. Instead, ask specific people you know are good at something (like your maid-of-honor who’s awesome at calligraphy) to help you with a specific project that uses their skill, like the invitation envelopes. Then, schedule DIY sessions out on your calendar for weekends and weeknights to ensure you allot more than enough time to get it all done. Let your bridesmaids know the days you’ll be working on projects and if they want to help, offer to buy the wine!
4. You’re having your wedding on a Sunday but you found out that a lot of guests are going to have to leave early.
Planning a wedding on a weekday or Sunday will save you money on your venue and catering. There’s not doubt about that. If you’re going this route though, know that most people won’t be able to party until the wee hours of the morning because they have to get ready for work on Monday. If the crowd starts to thin around 9 or 10 p.m. enjoy your time with the remaining guests or head to an after-hours spot to hang with the guests who took the Monday off!
5. You’re doing food trucks and appetizers instead of a big seated dinner and now your parents are freaking out.
If you’re looking at creative catering options then food trucks or heavy appetizer meals are a fun way for guests to taste a variety of foods and mingle while they eat. At first, your mom and dad might not seem thrilled at the thought of guests grabbing their dinner from a truck. Look at it from their point of view, when they were getting married wedding dinners were much more traditional, which may make it hard for them to get used to the idea. Make sure to serve one of their favorite familiar food options in addition and they’ll come around.
6. You’re doing a first look and now the hair and makeup timeline is crunched.
First looks make for amazing album-worthy photo ops, and are the perfect time for the couple to have a quiet moment together before the wedding gets underway. If you want to get all the pictures in without feeling rushed then you’ll have to move up your hair and makeup timeline, and that may mean waking up early or that you don’t have time to enjoy the mimosas and brunch with your bridesmaids before you start getting ready. On the flip-side it does mean you’ll be able to enjoy more of the cocktail hour with your guests because you’ll already have most of your photos out of the way!
7. You’re serving signature cocktails (the kind that sneak up on you) and a few of your guests get especially drunk.
A specialty cocktail bar is sure to be a hit with guests and can totally tie in with your theme. But just like any party, when cocktails are so tasty, you can’t taste the alcohol, you can get a few over-indulgers. So if uncle Bob gets a little sloshed on the dance floor, don’t let it ruin your night. And if you’re worried about any particular guests making a scene, do some damage control early by asking a friend or relative to watch over them that night (and get them home safely).
8. Your friend is officiating and the ceremony doesn’t go exactly as planned.
Having someone close to you officiate the wedding will make the ceremony feel even more intimate and personalized, but remember they’re not a pro. So maybe the ceremony has a few awkward moments or someone stumbles over their lines. Totally fine! Sometimes a little spontaneity can create the best memories, and you chose your friend to officiate because of your relationship, not because they’re going to do it perfectly.
9. You send out your wedding hashtag and guests start tagging you in unflattering photos.
Wedding hashtags are genius. But sometimes guests will get so excited about sharing that they might not realize the photo of you getting low on the after-party dance floor isn’t exactly what you had in mind for Facebook. Don’t sweat it though. By the time you get your professional photos back, there will be so many photos of the two of you that no one is going to remember the few unflattering ones.
Bottom line? Don’t sweat the bummers. Embrace them and be confident that your wedding is going to be totally unique and you!
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Contracts
Contracts
Definition: A written or spoken agreement that is intended to be enforceable by law.
Most vendors will have standard contract about a page long. Regardless of length make no mistake they are legally binding and you are stuck with them once you’ve signed. All financial decisions should be made together. Be sure to shop around and make sure that you are not overpaying for a service. Anything you are unsure of, ask, don’t assume. Assumptions can turn into costly mistakes. Triple check that everything you want included on your contract is written on the contract and read all contracts in their entirety. Stick to these guidelines and you should be in pretty good shape.
Definition: A written or spoken agreement that is intended to be enforceable by law.
Most vendors will have standard contract about a page long. Regardless of length make no mistake they are legally binding and you are stuck with them once you’ve signed. All financial decisions should be made together. Be sure to shop around and make sure that you are not overpaying for a service. Anything you are unsure of, ask, don’t assume. Assumptions can turn into costly mistakes. Triple check that everything you want included on your contract is written on the contract and read all contracts in their entirety. Stick to these guidelines and you should be in pretty good shape.
Friday, March 22, 2013
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Cake idea: birthday, kids birthday, anniversary, etc.
Cake idea: birthday, kids birthday, anniversary, etc.
Sunday, March 17, 2013
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Paperless invitations
I saw this online and thought it was interesting (paperless invitations)
https://www.greenvelope.com/weddings/?gclid=CO3cqZSCtbECFSQbQgoduC4ACw
https://www.greenvelope.com/weddings/?gclid=CO3cqZSCtbECFSQbQgoduC4ACw
Monday, March 11, 2013
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Wedding expo announcement
Metro Bridal Expo
February 17, 2013
11:00 a.m. - 3:00 p.m.
East Wind Caterers
5720 Route 25A, Wading River, NY
For more info, visit www.1888metroexpo.com
call (631) 563-6282
Sunday, February 10, 2013
The Budget
Friday, February 1, 2013
Thursday, January 31, 2013
What colors would you choose?
What is your favorite wedding color scheme? http://www.polleverywhere.com/multiple_choice_polls/LTY5NjcyMzgwMA/web via @polleverywhere
Wednesday, January 30, 2013
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